TOC for “Blogging from A to Z April 2016 Challenge” (I’m # 695)
|Post Day||Post Date||Post Letter||Link and Description|
|Friday||04/01/2016||A||All About Me [You]
Introduction to this blog series.
|Saturday||04/02/2016||B||Bullying: I can stop being bullied
Stop the bully problem with a defense system.
|Monday||04/04/2016||C||Criticize me, please! No, really!
There’s an art form in asking for help.
|Tuesday||04/05/2016||D||Don’t give up too soon or too late
It’s OK to say “don’t give up” but we also need to know when it’s OK to move on.
|Wednesday||04/06/2016||E||Equal Doesn’t Mean Same
Why is it bad to be good?
|Thursday||04/07/2016||F||Flip Flop: on purpose!
Let’s show our weaknesses (carefully) to give ourselves character.
Everyone tries to guilt you into improving.
|Saturday||04/09/2016||H||Honesty versus Abasement
Difference between being up front and putting yourself down. Credit: Alex
Identity: Know Thyself
Dig deep and learn what your triggers are. Credit: Alex
Credit: Cassie from Mommy, RN
|Tuesday||04/12/2016||J||Journey to Confidence
Credit: Cassie from Mommy, RN
|Wednesday||04/13/2016||K||Knowledge: you’re not Einstein
There’s always more to learn. Credit: Alex
|Thursday||04/14/2016||L||Love yourself? Nope, just be comfortable
Feel right at home with yourself. Credit: Jen Seriously
|Friday||04/15/2016||M||My Car only Seats Just So Many
It’s okay not to be Superman.
|Saturday||04/16/2016||N||No Magic Answers
Confidence has to start somewhere; looking at it from another angle can help.
Outgoing or Introvert
Credit: Jen Seriously
Keep positive; don’t gossip. Credit: Cassie from Mommy, RN
|Wednesday||04/20/2016||Q||Quick to judge
Every single thing can feel like an attack. Credit: Cassie from Mommy, RN
“Be nice” to yourself, not just others. Credit: Jen Seriously
How much of our self-image and self-worth comes from society?
|Saturday||04/23/2016||T||Taking Care of Number One
Charity and generosity are wonderful, as long as we don’t forget to take care of ourselves.
Seek out stuff that makes you feel great when you feel not-so-great. Credit: Alex .
Vanity: the confidence alter-ego
Love yourself, but not to the point where you think you are “all that”. Credit: Jen Seriously
We should stop obsessing about what other people think of us.
Stretch: you like everyone else but yourself.
Believe. It’s hard, but you can beat your inner bully. I did – partially – and I continue to make strides every day. Credit: Jen Seriously
|Saturday||04/30/2016||Z||Zero to Hero
I know, that’s my writer’s blog. But I think it’s likely to be an apt way to wrap it up and end this theme – learning to find your inner hero.
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[Original Post Text]
So many people and so many “programs” tell us that by squishing our negative feelings and bolstering our inner vision of ourselves we will attain happiness. This gives us some magic formula of physical and mental “wellness” – whatever that is.
What they don’t tell us is the opposite – which, on the surface, should be obvious: that by lacking self-confidence, you’ll be unhappy. What I’ve been taking exception to, though, is how shallow this whole self-promotion trend is – so very black and white.
It’s quite clear to many of us that when we’re lacking in confidence, we tend to be more timid, we give up more easily, and we do not rise to a challenge and are easily intimidated by others, just to name a few. It also seems relatively clear that when you’re more confident, you’ll have higher chances of landing that job, you’ll feel better about yourself, and you might even treat your physical health with more respect by eating better and exercising.
Where I wish to focus is on people like me: We don’t particularly view ourselves as lacking in confidence, yet we close so many doors for ourselves because we still believe all the lies about ourselves that we grew up with: we’re lazy; we’re not talented enough; we’re not experienced enough; statistics show that only 10 out of a million people succeed as new writers (I’m being sarcastic here).
In this blog series, I hope to bring out some different points of view for us to consider:
- Confidant but not overly arrogant
- Humble but not timid
- Optimistic but not unrealistic
- Realistic but still giving yourself a chance
I have no idea if I will be able to take up 26 blog posts without saying the same thing over…and over, but my optimism tells me to give it a shot (even if my ‘realism’ is warning me I might end up on a soap box)! Here’s what I have planned so far (thoughts only, not written yet):