While it is smart to be raising these, and other, questions, we still don’t have any formula to magically transform our doubt into confidence.
But it has to start somewhere, and sometimes looking at it from another angle can help.
Sometimes while I’ve been doing these posts I’ve felt a bit of a fraud. Who am I to talk about self-confidence when I myself so often find my own lacking?
I have no magic answers, else I would have used them all myself. That doesn’t mean, however, that I haven’t made progress. Some of those little tidbits are among what I’ve written about earlier.
How did I get to the tidbits I did get to? This may be one of our keys for success: we can’t beat the problem if we can’t define the problem. Just saying we lack self-confidence is not enough. We have to dig deep and try to analyze what in our behaviours and our writing displays our lack of confidence, and if possible, figure out where it may have originated from. As I posted in an earlier post, find our triggers – those things that we know will cause us to feel bad – and this may help us realize where our weaknesses are. We also have to break these weaknesses into two categories: not harmful/we can ignore, and harmful/we need to work to improve.
The first step of improving our confidence is talking about it, even just to ourselves. Exploring the many different aspects of it.
Where would you begin?
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